Just last week I was able to view some old home movies from my childhood. These were old 8mm movies that were transfered to DVD. Although my children didn’t really understand why there was no sound, my father and I got a kick out of watching them. For me it was really something very unique.
When you look at old pictures you get a feeling for that frozen moment in time, but viewing movies is a totally different experience, even without the sound. I watched footage of my parents playing with me when I was a newborn, my fiirst birthday party, family trips and visits with relatives. While these were all great to view, there was one thing that really got to me. Seeing my father play with me. These images were priceless. It showed a side of him that I hadn’t seen in many years.
My relationship with my dad is a very formal one. We talk a few times a week, but mostly it is about things that are really not that important (this is something that is being worked on). To see him playing with little old me in these old home movies really got to me. It reminded me how parents have such a strong love for their children, even before their children are old enough to do things on their own. It reminded me of how much I love my own kids and how fun it is just to play with them. The joy and love that a parent has for a child is, in fact, almost childlike itself. We act silly with our kids, do things to make them laugh, and shower our kids with affection. Eventually the child grows up, life has more demands, and, at times, the parent/child relationship becomes more serious than fun, more formal than comfortable. This is just my observation.
The fact that it is Rosh Chodesh Menachem Av only makes this post more meaningful, for if it wasn’t for our Father’s love, Avinu Shebashamayim, we would not be here. The love never stops.
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I listened to two them (Baal Shem Tov 1 and 2) today and they were great!!
Sunday’s Spark of Mussar
Rav Naftali Amsterdam
A resolution to bring all of Jewry back to Torah was found in his satchel. When asked how he planned to carry out this resolution, he replied, “I have resolved to keep all the laws of the Shulchan Oruch strictly. In this way I will serve as a living Shulchan Oruch, and anyone who wants to keep the Torah will be able to see in me a living example of a complete Jew and learn from me how to return to the Torah.”
From Sparks of Mussar by R Chaim Ephraim Zaitchik
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Novardok, question and an answer
I posted the following comment on Cross-Currents:
“I’ve always wondered why, if Novardhok mussar resulted in such a true Simchas HaChaim, didn’t it continue to spread after the Holocaust? I would have thought that after the war, Novardhok’s message of not giving up and carrying on would have been welcome.”
One reader took time to email me the following response:
Good question.
I am not a Novhardoker, nor a son or grandson of one (if you define it as someone who learned in a Yeshiva that was part of the Novhardok network) – that is to my knowledge. Although I had a an elter zeide who lived in the city.
I see that you ask one question in the second sentence of your comment, while the third sentence seems to be asking something a bit different.
Anyway, first to the second sentence question – Briefly, I would venture to say that although R. Shafran’s point is well-taken, it is lost on some, perhaps many/most people. Not everyone is a deep thinker like him, and some people only saw absorbed the part that, as he wrote “Novardhok had a reputation for a pietistic and morose – to some even morbid – philosophy.” I suspect that even some/many/maybe most students, their children, and kal vachomer outsiders, didn’t get beyond the part of Novhardok that ridiculed olam hazeh pre-occupation, etc., which ultimately can yield the simcha, when properly handled. R. Nekritz was a great man, not everyone made it that far, some just absorbed part one, and didn’t get to part two. I could elaborate more I guess.
I thank this person for taking time to give me a reply.
Sunday’s Mussar Link
OK, I did it.
When I was young I enjoyed reading the Sunday Comics. “Family Circus”, was never my favorite thing to read (I was more into the Far Side) , the classic NOT ME Ghost always gave me chuckle. Mostly because I could totally see myself in a situation where it was obviously my fault that X had happened, I could envision myself saying, “Not me.” and deflecting blame to another party.
I realized Wednesday night, while driving for an hour, that Hashem has taught me a very difficult lesson in responsiblity. The times that I judge to quickly, find a reason to hate someone, or try to make myself feel better by talking badly about someone don’t go unnoticed. I’ve get it. I don’t like it, but I get it. It’s my fault. As I’ve been told and as I’ve read for years, “Each generation in which the Beit Hamikdash is not rebuilt is considered as if it was guilty of its destruction”. I hope to make the next Three Weeks very meaningful.
Amazing story about Rav Yaakov Weinberg zt’l
The unaffiliated Jewish woman attended three of the rabbi’s lectures in the 1950s, visibly intrigued by the ideas he put forth, about the historicity of the Jewish religious tradition. Then she abruptly stopped coming.
Another woman who had also attended the lecture series tracked her down and asked why she was no longer showing up. The first woman answered straightforwardly: “He was convincing me. If I continue to listen to this man, I will have to change my life.”
What a remarkably honest person. (I like to imagine that she came, in time, to pursue what she then fled.)
And what a remarkable man was the rabbi who delivered the lectures. He was Rabbi Yaakov Weinberg, of blessed memory, whose tenth yahrtzeit, or death-anniversary, will be marked on the fast day of Shiva Asar BiTammuz (July 9). He later became the Rosh Yeshiva, or Dean, of the Ner Israel Rabbinical College in Baltimore. He was my rebbe.
As an 18-year-old studying in the Baltimore yeshiva in 1972, I watched him from afar. His father-in-law, Rabbi Yaakov Yitzchok Ruderman, of blessed memory, was the Rosh Yeshiva then; Rabbi Weinberg headed the Kollel, or graduate student program, and also delivered general Talmudic lectures. The depth of his knowledge, the power of his critical analyses of both Talmudic and worldly topics, his eloquence and his knowledge of history and the sciences all impressed me deeply.
But what I came to realize was that his brilliance and erudition were mere tools with which he was gifted. His essence was his dedication to truth, to Torah and to his students – indeed, to all Jews – and his humility.
When I think back on the many times I telephoned Rabbi Weinberg from wherever I was living at the time to ask him a question about Jewish law or philosophy, or for his advice, I am struck by something I never gave much thought to at those times: He was always available. And, I have discovered over the years, not only to me. As I came to recognize all the others – among them greatly accomplished Torah scholars, congregational rabbis and community leaders today – who had also enjoyed a student-rebbe relationship with Rabbi Weinberg, I marveled. In my youthful self-centeredness, I had imagined him as my rebbe alone. Who knew?
And his ongoing interactions with his students somehow didn’t prevent him from travelling wherever his services were needed. A sought-after speaker and arbitrator for individuals and communities alike, he somehow found time and energy for it all.
More telling, he felt responsible to undertake it all. He (and, may she be well, his wife, Rebbetzin Chana Weinberg) gave so very much to others (as the Rebbetzin continues to do). That, I long ago concluded, is the defining characteristic of true Gedolim, literally “great ones” – the term reserved for the most knowledgeable and pious Torah leaders of each generation: selflessness.
How painfully ironic, I sometimes think, that small, spiteful minds try to portray Gedolim oppositely. Then again, as the weekly Torah-portion of Korach recently read in synagogue reminds us, no less a Godol than Moses – the “most humble of all men” – was also spoken of cynically by some in his day. Plus ça change…
It wasn’t just in his public life, in his service to students and communities that Rabbi Weinberg’s self-effacement was evident. It was in little things too.
In the early 1980s, he was asked to temporarily take the helm of a small yeshiva in Northern California that had fallen on hard times. Although not a young man, he agreed to leave his home and position in Baltimore and become interim dean.
My wife and I and our three daughters lived in the community; I taught in the yeshiva and served as principal of the local Jewish girls’ high school. And so I was fortunate to have ample opportunity to work with Rabbi Weinberg, and to witness much that I will always remember. One small episode, though, remains particularly poignant.
Rabbi Weinberg was housed in a bedroom of a rented house. In the house’s other bedroom lived the yeshiva’s cooks – a middle-aged couple, recently immigrated from the Soviet Union.
Though Northern California has a wonderful climate, its winters can be a bit chilly, and the house’s heating system was not working. The yeshiva administrator made sure that extra blankets were supplied to the house’s residents, and an electric heater was procured for Rabbi Weinberg (the cooks, it was figured, had been toughened by a truly cold clime).
After a week or two of cold, rainy weather, it was evident that Rabbi Weinberg had caught a bad cold. Suspecting that perhaps the electric heater was not working, someone went to his room to check it. It wasn’t there.
Where it was, it turned out, was in the cooks’ room. Confronted with the discovery, Rabbi Weinberg sheepishly admitted to having relocated the heater. “I thought they would be cold,” was all he said.
Another heater was bought. And a lesson, once again, learned, about the essence of a Godol.
A thought: This post was titled an “Amazing story…”, but what is really amazing is that there a probably hundreds of stories similar to this one that people don’t know about Gedolim being sensitive to ordinary people. That’s true Gadlus HaAdom. -Neil
60,000 Thanks
Tonight I realized that I have had over 60,000 visitors to this blog. For anyone who has stopped by over the past 3 years+, thank you for taking time to read my posts.
Real Ahavas Yisrael
Most agree that it’s a good idea. There are plenty of people we meet, however, that we just don’t like. That’s OK. The mitzvah is to love them as Jews, not like them as people. Recently I experienced true Ahavas Yisrael from almost complete strangers. They helped me because it was a mitzvah, looking beyond my background or my hashkafa.
Real Ahavas Yisrael, not the kind that end up as a short story in a gloss weekly Jewish magazine or as a chapter in children’s Gadolim biography. Real Ahavas Yisrael that wakes you up that the cup of coffee that you psychologically know you need in order to function. Real Ahavas Yisrael, I’m talking about the kind that reminds you that we have to help others because Hashem is constantly helping us. Real Ahavas Yisrael, the kind you daven that your kids will practice when they become older.
Originally I was going to fill the post with several quotes on the importance of loving our fellow Jews from the likes of the Rambam, Rav Hirsch, and the Chofetz Chaim. I decided against this. Often in life we tend to meet people and try to figure out “what their angle” is. It seems that society has programmed us, well me, to think that most people I encounter have a hidden agenda. An act of kindness, a true Chessed, has an agenda as well, the most pure agenda, the will of Hashem. I am humbled that my creator has allowed me to meet a few people in my life that remind me of the kind of Jew I want to be.





