When Rav Kook and Rav Sonnenfeld went to the little communities, the little kubutzim up in the north, where they [the residents] ate chazair treif, they went together to bring people back to Yiddishkeit. Baalei Machloches- they held each other were wrong, but they worked together. They disagreed without being disagreeable and we have not learned to do that. When we disagree, you’re invalid, not entitled to your opinion. Their vehement machloches never devolved in animosity.
You know, Rav Kook and Rav Yosef Chaim Sonnenfeld were once invited to a bris. Rav Yosef Chaim was to be the mohel and Rav Kook was supposed to be the zandek and they got to the shul at the same time. Rav Yosef Chaim insisted that Rav Kook go in first, because he was a cohen. Rav Kook insisted that Rav Yosef Chaim should go in, because he was a bigger person. And they stood at the door frozen, they wouldn’t go until Rav Kook noticed that it was a double door and the left portion of the door was locked. He reached in beside and pulled down the thing and they opened both doors simultaneously and they went in together. That’s the paradigm [to how we should behave].
Any inaccuracies in this transcription are mine. This is posted in zechus of a refuah shelayma for Reuven ben Tova Chaya and Miriam Orit bas Devorah.